Monday, January 20, 2014
Sex and the Single Christian Girl by Marian Jordan Ellis
The first thing that really stuck with me about this book was the honesty. There were no punches pulled, no sugar coating, no trying to sound like a I've-got-it-together. It was a woman reaching out to many girls about what God wants from our sexuality versus what the worlds says it should be.
Mrs. Jordan Ellis was 38 years old when she married. I mention this because some books on purity are written by those who remained chaste before marriage but married by their middle to late twenties. They then write about it from a life point of being married 20 years or more. While these books are greatly beneficial and should be used as resources, having someone like Mrs. Jordan Ellis who is not so far removed from waiting-till-marriage scene adds a level of relevancy that some lack.
What is also an encouragement is that Jordan Ellis was not a virgin on her wedding night. She came to Christ after having bought the lie about sex and free love and the book gives insight into her struggles to maintain purity after her salvation. I really appreciated this as many have become beaten by believing that once virginity is lost, purity no longer matters. Thus they yield believing that nothing is sacred once the sacred has been given. Jordan Ellis gives strong edification to not give into that falsehood but to fight for purity of mind, body, and spirit as a way of life; not a one time event.
As a youth pastor I highly recommend this book for those who disciple young ladies. This book is about purity of body but it is also a book about acceptance by Jesus and to find your longing in him; not a man.